How to say happy birthday to your crush over text
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Table of Contents
- Overview
- Decide what you want to achieve
- Be playful, make a joke.
- Give them an opportunity to reject you.
- It's important that they reject your offer.
- Conclusion
Overview
To send a birthday wish to your crush you need to find the right balance between being interesting and playful, but not being inappropriate or creepy, or appearing too desperate. The best way is to be a bit indirect and playful, maybe make a silly suggestion that you know they will refuse.
Decide what you want to achieve
This is important because it will dictate what kind of message you send. Do you just want them to like you? Or do you want them to feel attracted? If it's the former then just send a simple and friendly message. If it's the latter you'll need to be more inventive.
Be playful, make a joke.
The best way to get someone interested in you is for them to associate you with positive feelings. If they laugh at something you've said, they'll automatically feel more positive about you. And if they're going to like or fancy you they'll need to think about you, and if you're funny then they're more likely to do that.
Give them an opportunity to reject you.
If you're hoping that this special person will develop special feelings for you you'll need them to think about you. The best way of doing this is for them to imagine what it might be like if they got together with you. If we follow the advice above and make a joke, we could use something like this: 'I think the best way for me to say happy birthday would be in person'. It's even better if we can include the suggestion of physical contact, such as: 'I think I should give your ears a good rub'. This is good because it's silly and nobody would actually do it.
It's important that they reject your offer.
This might not sound logical but it's true. If they accept and invite us round for some ear-rubbing they'll get what they want (a bit of attention) and that'll probably be the end of it. But if they reject our offer then hopefully they'll feel curious about what it would be like, which means they'll think about us, which is exactly what we want.
Conclusion
So in summary if we want someone to feel attracted towards us we need them to think about us, so make a silly suggestion for something that they can easily reject so they have an excuse to imagine what it would be like before doing so.
Dan
LinkedIn profileAfter 25+ years juggling IT and management, Dan realized that many people (including friends, family, and coworkers) were grappling with anxiety and stress brought on by modern life. Determined to offer some comic relief, he founded Mr. Inappropriate, an online store for wonderfully rude and funny adult gifts and cards. Through weekly true stories, naughty product lines, and genuine one-on-one connections with customers, Dan’s mission is to help people safely push social boundaries, share a good laugh, and discover that being a bit “inappropriate” can be surprisingly therapeutic. A proud Yorkshire resident, Dan remains steadfast in his belief that humour is one of the best ways to escape the pressures of everyday life, and that a well-timed, mischievous gift can often o more good than any pill.
